Valentine's Day is extremely difficult for people who are not in a relationship or who are not in a good relationship. As you check Facebook and see all of the posts from our friends about the gifts, flowers, dates, and possibly even engagements, you will likely become more depressed and irritable.
Some people will be anticipating a "bad" day on the 14th due to past experiences. The good news is... THIS VALENTINE'S DAY CAN BE DIFFERENT!!!
Begin your preparation now to avoid the dread of the 14th. Below are 7 tips to help you look forward to the 14th rather than the 15th!
#1) Make this Day About YOU!
While everyone else seems to be focusing on their significant other, you have the luxury of focusing on YOU! Think about what you would like to do. Plan to order dinner and have a night in, or perhaps plan to spend the evening with your family and/or children.
#2) Treat Yourself:
Now that you are focused on you, you can make plans to treat yourself. This could be a massage, manicure/pedicure, haircut, car detailing, or new item of clothing. These things do not have to cost a fortune but are great gifts to give yourself as you remind yourself that you are important.
#3) Contact a Single Friend to Make Plans:
You can be certain there are many others who are in your boat (although it does not seem that way at first glance). Identify at least one friend who may be dreading the 14th and make plans with them. Spending time with friends improves one's mood and what better time than Valentine's Day to do this!
#4) Stay Busy:
Do your best to not dwell on the negative aspects of Valentine's Day. Keeping yourself busy and frequently reminding yourself that you are important will help to pass the time and make the day more tolerable.
While it is very difficult to begin an exercise routine, the benefits for your physical and mental health are nearly innumerable. Exercise is proven to decrease stress and anxiety while increasing one's level of energy. Exercise also increases one's self-esteem and we all know that others are drawn to people with a healthy level of self-esteem.
#6) Enjoy Some Chocolate (Dark Chocolate That Is):
Studies have shown that eating dark chocolate can decrease levels of depression. Of course, you must eat chocolate in moderation but why not on Valentine's Day when the heart shaped boxes are abound!
Just imagine how productive you will be tomorrow with plenty of rest! Adequate amounts of sleep have been proven to decrease levels of stress and depression. With lower levels of stress and depression, your levels of productivity and self satisfaction may soar!
While these tips are helpful in overcoming the dread of Valentine's Day they may also be helpful to add to your ongoing routine as well. Now go ahead and get started with your countdown to the 14th!
Please let me know what other suggestions you have in regards to dealing with loneliness during Valentine's Day.